Second Chances

Recently a client approached the receptionist's window and asked if we provided birth control. Rather than simply returning an easy, "No, we don't" answer, we asked her the question, "Are you trying to prevent a pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Diseases?" She replied, "Well, both!" I then asked her if she had a few minutes for us to talk, informing her we had lots of information about STD's and other helpful information related to her request.

She agreed, filled out our client intake form and we quickly settled into a comfortable setting where she began freely sharing her situation. As it turns out, she had been in a year long relationship before giving of herself sexually to her boyfriend. They had been in agreement to wait for eachother.

When I asked her why she decided to have sex, she replied, "because I thought I loved him." After they had sex, she later found out he had actually been sexually active with several other girls all the while she thought he was waiting for her. Needless to say, she was deeply hurt, feeling very used and empty.

We discussed the possibility of STD's since he had been with several other girls and the possibility of those girls each being with several partners. She quickly saw the effects of that and the importance of waiting until marriage. She got it!

She declared verbally that she would not be involved in a sexual relationship again until she married. She accepted the abstinence pledge card I gave her and agreed to fill it out at home. She left with a smile on her face, a new spring in her step and a brand new vision of renewed virginity.

Marge Miller